There is No One Like You!
Do you remember being in middle school? Those were the awkward years. I remember not really liking who I was or how I looked. I have a feeling a lot of us didn’t like ourselves at that age, but we all desperately wanted others to like us, right?

At that point, I think a lot of us secretly compared ourselves to those around us, observed who was liked most, and tried to be like the popular people.

In my Proverbs 31 devotion, "Becoming the Real Me," I talk about having that same unhealthy habit in my adult life, too. And I know I'm not alone. For many women, it wasn't just a phase when we were teenagers; it's still a struggle now. Sometimes it's because we don't have the confidence to find out who we really are. Many of us are just more comfortable buried in busyness and hiding behind our self-doubts.

Lots of times it's because we're believe we don't have anything special to offer anyway, so we just keep being who others want, need or expect us to be.

Well my friend, it's time to do something about it. How? First we have to stop comparing ourselves to other women. Why would we compare how we feel inadequate on the inside with how someone else looks like they had it all together on the outside? We'll always end up feeling less than.

Not only is comparison toxic for us personally, it's also destructive relationally. Comparison makes us measure our worth against other women, and we end up competing with each other.

But God created us to complete one another, not compete with each other.

In my book, A Confident Heart, I share how we can do that by encouraging each others' strengths, overlooking each others' weaknesses and celebrating each other' uniqueness.

The truth is, life is hard and we need each other! “But now God has placed the parts, each one of them in the body just as He wanted. And if they were all the same part, where would the body be? Now there are many parts, yet one body.” 1 Corinthians 12:18-20

God gives all of us unique personalities, abilities, passions and experiences because we each play a leading role in the story He’s writing with our lives.

So, today when you are tempted to compare yourself to another woman and doubt starts whispering that you’re not as smart as she is, or gifted or pretty or godly…remember you are "God’s masterpiece...created anew in Christ so that [you] can do the good things He planned for [you] long ago.” Ephesians 2:10, (NLT)

In my upcoming book, A Confident Heart: How to Stop Doubting Yourself and Live in the Security of God’s Promises, I have a whole chapter on this topic and other self-doubts that keep us from becoming the women God created us to be!

I'm giving away three copies today, but first I'd love for you to watch this 2-minute introduction video.




I'm praying for each of you today as you begin to discover and embrace the woman God created you to be! Remember, there is no one like you...and the world is missing someone special until you become her!

If you'd like to read A Confident Heart when it releases, and share it with friends, enter to win 3 copies (1 for yourself and 2 for friends) below:

A Confident Heart releases August 1st, but you can pre-order yours at P31 today and be the first to receive a signed copy in early August! (P31 is getting early copies in mid July.)


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758 Comments:

Blogger Ravynword said...

What you said today really resonated with me -- especially, your observation that the LORD made us to complete each other not to compete which each other. Bravo!

Blogger Faith said...

I often forget in the heat of mistakes and wondering why I do the things I do that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Thank you for reminding me.

Blogger Ms. AMK said...

I ran across your blog after readin the P31 for today. As soon as I started reading, I immediately said to myself, "I hate when people ask those type of questions because I never have an answer."

I'm a soon to be 25 year old tax consultant... I'm not sure what my true purpose is or what God's desire for my life is. As you stated, I too am a people pleaser and tend to be who people who need me to be. My prayer from now on will be for God to reveal who He wants me to be.

I'm sure that as I reconnect with Him, He will reveal exactly what it is that will fulfill both His desires as well as mine. I hope that I can soon know the real me!

Blogger Laura said...

Wow! I needed this today. At 37 I frequently am ashamed of the fact that I "don't know what I want to be when I grow up". This book is made for me!

Anonymous Betsy said...

This really hit home with me. I have always done what was expected of me without a lot of thought of what I am good at or what I really want to do. You have encouraged me to seek God and discover His purpose/design for me. I look forward to reading your book.

Anonymous Theresa said...

I think that as women we think we are to take care of everyone else and their needs. We lose ourselves in our family, friends and work. Then when someone does ask us "What do you want to do or be" we are lost.

God did make us fearfully and wonderfully made...to do for His kingdom not for "our" kingdom. He gave each of us a specific trait of what His plan is for us.

I agree "I don't know what I want to be when I grow up". And here I am 51! Time to let go and let God!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm now 56 years old and as the years fly by I wonder if I am who God planned for me to be or if I am who the world wanted me to be? My passions are creative communication, people and administration - I've learned this through 2 Spiritual Gifts inventories. I manage a 300 person group of volunteers at a local hospital - but I feel called, pushed, prodded, to do something else. Is it God? I think so but I'm not sure how to move on.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am excited about the possibilities of this book! I think just about every woman I know has one confidence issue or another! I'm going to think about presenting this to my Bible study group! Thank you, Renee!
Leslie Mears

Anonymous Tracy said...

Thank you for sharing God's word with me today. It spoke directly to my heart

Blogger Beverly said...

I would love to know what my dreams are, but more I want to know what God has for me. I feel I just go from day to day, hoping I do something worthy.

Anonymous Linda said...

Your words made me stop and think today. I've been divorced almost a year and am struggling with finding myself. I didn't want the divorce but had to realize I couldn't change my husband. I've also come to realize that I don't really know who I am, what I enjoy doing. I think I became wrapped up in my ex-husband and enjoyed those things he did. As I began to look back over the years, I noticed I've always identified myself with a man, boyfriends and then my husband. I look forward to learning who God wants me to be and developing a closer relationship with Him as well.

Anonymous Jenn said...

Outwardly, no one would ever look at me and think I doubt myself. But I am constantly wondering who I am in Christ and what His purpose for me is. I look forward to reading your book. Thank you for snippets of it already!!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow Renee, it was like I was reading about myself in what you wrote in Prov31 devotion today. Thank you for the hope and encouragement. I look forward to reading your book to learn more about having a Confident Heart. Blessings
Cathy

Anonymous Tammy said...

This morning when I got up I asked God to speak to me today on why I feel like I do. I am sitting here in tears after reading P31 today. I am 44 and all my life I have devoted all of me to what everyone else needs. When I step out to do something that I have an interest in I get no support or feel condemed for doing it. So here I am I don't know what I want to be when I grow up. Still wishing I knew who I was. Praying for God to reveal the real me He intended. Thank you for this ministry, you have blessed me.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you. I thought I was the only one who didn't have a dream for who God made me to be. I've been trying very hard for the past year and a half to discover that, but it still seems to elude me. My prayers appear to be unanswered, but after reading your blog and realizing I've taken spiritual gifts inventories, personality inventories, etc. I have a new direction...I haven't put them all together and really looked at them with prayer! Again, thank you for the encouragement that I'm not alone.

Kelly

Blogger Lisa said...

Right before I read today's Proverb 31 devotional, I prayed that I would go back to being the person I was when I first turned my life over to God. I was confident and trusting in God. My faith was so strong, and I started becoming the woman God made me to be. I was a foster mother to 9 beautiful children, and through that I adopted my precious son who is now almost 4 years old. Through the past 5 years, I have forgotten the woman I was then. I want to find her again, and be the woman God wants me to be; no matter what anyone says I can or can't do. I know that God has a purpose and a plan for me, and I ready to find out what that is! Thank you, Renee not only for this devotion, and the book you wrote, but for asking God what his dreams are for you and for listening! Through this you not only helped yourself, you are, also, helping hundreds of women across the globe!!!! I pray that God keeps using you and that you keep listening!!!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

As you described the book it felt like you had written it specifically for me. I have had so many lows lately and I needed to read your devotion and blog today. God's timing is perfect.
Diane

Blogger Crystal said...

My daughter is 20 and she is struggling with what to do with her life. So far she has not experienced God's peace and that troubles her. I empathize with her since I am 46 and I don't know what it is that I should be doing right now. In the past, I've been in the place I needed to be; but now I am sensing the need for a directional change and I have no idea how to go about it or what direction to go. We both need help!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Needed this reading today. Not only am I comparing myself to a strong woman at work, but also comparing myself to a strong man at work. It's an unhealthy combo. I look forward to reading your book and letting it soak in.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Renee,
Thank you for your words of encouragement this morning. I have always put my families needs before my own and in the process I have lost who I am and what does God want for my life. Your book sounds like a good read for me. Have a Great day.
Cindy H.

Blogger Angel Victoria said...

My name is Angel. And I am excited about your book. I find me and my friends stuck in the very area of Doubt. We really desire to get out so we can reach the city we live in. So I pray that when reading your book we will be able to walk this out. (Great time to start a bookclub)~From worry to WORSHIP...Amen!

Blogger Diane Long said...

Wow what a timely Word for me today. So many years of thinking I'd missed the boat on my life's purpose and direction.thank you for letting me know it's not too late

Blogger Kristina said...

Thank you Renae! This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I'm so thankful for His perfect timing! I can't wait for your book to be out! I really need to read it. I know that God doesn't make junk and I often disappoint others. Even more frequently I think I disappoint myself. I set such high expectations for myself and others. It's not good. Thank you for writing this book.

Blessings,
Kristina

Blogger Momma Shoe said...

Thank you so much for both posts!!! As a mother of five young children, I don't take time to think about those things at all...I'm too busy doing whatever needs done for our family. I appreciate you bringing this important topic to me today. I will be praying about this!

Anonymous Faith E. said...

Thank you! I really needed to hear that today.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I clicked on here after reading the P31 devotions this morning and feel like it could have been me in that meeting. I too haven't got an answer when people ask me my dreams for my life. I am over 50 years old with my first child getting married this summer and I have no idea what God wants me do with this life. After reading your devotions, I will start to pray for God to show me who He wants me to be ... and not continue living as who others expect me to be. Thanks for your encouragement. I can't wait to read your book.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

In the not-too-distant future, I will be an empty nester after spending the majority of my life as a stay-at-home/homeschooling mom. I often wonder what it is that God has for me when that day comes. I wonder, "What do I want to do when I grow up?" I also want to help my 3 daughters discover who it is that God has created them to be. Thank you for your insight.

Blogger Judy said...

In the not-too-distant future, I will be an empty nester after spending the majority of my life as a stay-at-home/homeschooling mom. I often wonder what it is that God has for me when that day comes. I wonder, "What do I want to do when I grow up?" I also want to help my 3 daughters discover who it is that God has created them to be. Thank you for your insight.

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Although I have been one of God's children since I was a little girl, I have spent my whole life being envious of other girl's and now women's looks, personality, and confidence, rather than being secure in who God made me to be. I am a domestic violence survivor and have struggled the past few years with feeling like a failure. I don't have any real passions and I long to discover God's plan for my life. I cannot wait to read your book! Thank you for writing about something many women need help with!
Kim

Anonymous Julia said...

I too have struggled with paralyzing self-doubt since I was a teen. I didn't realize until the past few years how that takes its toll on every relationship and every aspect of your life. I have been on a journey to discover who I am as an individual-not wife, mother, daughter, friend, and am so excited to read your book to help me put everything together!

Anonymous Dawn said...

Wow, as I read through the comments I'm amazed at how many women this subject resonates with, including myself. God has been speaking to me over the past several months about my insecurities and being who He has created me to be. Thanks for the reminder. You're a blessing and I know your book will be as well!

Anonymous Erin said...

I have always had confidence in myself but I found that the confidence I had was in how others saw me & not how I saw myself. I recently born again & am starting to understand how much I don't know. While I struggle in my quest to learn more & know more about God, your blog & others with Proverbs31 help me to find the answers I am seeking. Thank you.

Anonymous Angie said...

I actually saw myself in this message and it stirred my spirit. I never really felt complete in my life never knowing what god had for me and what my desires were.

Anonymous Erin said...

I just posted a comment & shared your page on facebook. Thank you for this outlet for women who want to be closer to God. You are a blessing.

Anonymous Angie said...

I actually saw myself in this message and it stirred my spirit. I never really felt complete in my life never knowing what god had for me and what my desires were.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I so look forward to the next step in discovering where, how and what God intends for me in my life. I have found much hope when realizing that there is no age that is right for my journey to find God and his plan in my life

Anonymous Susan said...

I was that woman, the one who didn't know what I wanted. I, too, want to be the woman God desires for me to be, but I often compare myself to others thinking each one of them "has it all together." Your book would help me truly find the woman God planned me to be. Thanks for using your gifts to help others.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for your devotion. I am a 44 year old woman who is constantly comparing myself and sadly my family to others. It is so destructive. I don't believe I have the gift of anything to offer another person. It leaves me in a funk many times. I look forward to reading your book.

rwhite

Blogger Paula said...

I was oh so confident of my "mission" as long as I was in my classroom and teaching my babies. It is now that I am retired that I am searching for what is next. I am CONFIDENT that there is a next and am asking God to lead me there. God Bless you and your ministry. Paula

Blogger sagreen125 said...

I needed to hear this as life seems to be changing. And now in a real place to see who I am. Not define by what I had to do. But don't think in the last 15 years really look to see who I was created to be.

Anonymous Hope V. said...

Renee. Today's words really hit me square in the gut. I am living the same exact experience. When someone asks me who I am or what I 'really' want I honestly do not have an answer. When people ask me what I like or what I dream about, I don't know. Oh sure I know things like enjoying fellowship with Christian ladies, bible study, reading, movies, music, the 'usual' but nothing deeply personal or intimate about me.

I was abused in my childhood and learned to be a chameleon, to adjust to any circumstance, any situation, be whatever I needed to be to survive and that followed me all my life.

Jesus has healed my wounds and given me a life of beauty for ashes I never could have imagined. I have a fantastic family - an amazing husband and two beautiful girls, and I know my calling is to be a Godly wife and mother, but yet, I still don't know deep down Who Am I? What are MY dreams? What does God have just for me?

I don't know. I prayed that prayer in you wrote today. I desperately pray the Lord would show me who he created me to be, what - if finances were unlimited and failure was unlikely, what would be MY dream?

I pray the Lord will answer that in my spirit and give me the courage to believe and pursue whatever he has for me.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your comment in the devotional today about listening to others' dreams in order to have one of your own really struck home with me. I pick and choose the "good" parts of girl friends that I admire and try to mirror those qualities, but I find I often don't truly know who I am. I don't know that I ever have. I have a 2 year old little girl and I want to be able to raise her to be confident and proud of who she is and whose she is. How can I do that if I don't know myself?

Blogger Christine said...

It is far too easy to fall into the trap of comparison, especially when you don't feel like you're fulfilling your life's calling. I love how you point out that we need to take the time for self-examination and that it is not selfish to do so. We're so busy wearing all of our hats as wives, mothers, employees, etc - that we forget about ourselves in the mix of life. That's exactly where I am, and I can't wait to read your book!
:) Christine

Blogger Cindy said...

This topic could not have came at a better time for me. Your book and devotion must have been a answer to prayer.

Thank you so much for Renee for your devotion and dedication to this book. Would love to win a copy, but if not, guess it will go on the wish list. :)

Blessings to you.
Cindy

Blogger Irina said...

Renee, I really needed to hear this. I'm a 29 yr old and I am staying home with my 2 little kids. I'm constantly taking care of my little ones, my house, my sick cat, etc. And honestly I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up :) I just recently started staying home with my kids, and it's quite an adjustment. I often compare myself with other Moms who look like they have figured this all out. I look forward to reading your book when it comes out!
Thank you,
Irina

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Like so many others here, I relate to this. A lack of clarity I guess. At 39, my youngest child now 6, I have space and time to pursue something for myself...but I don't know how to do it or where to start. I have no real sense of who I am. Thanks for your timely reminder of God's perspective on me...I will ponder the verses in Psalms today. - Cathy

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Anonymous AnnF said...

I do not have an answer for the question you asked. I've started praying and thinking already! I have two wonderful little boys and a precious husband...they need me to be who God made me to be, not just busy going through life. I need to read the book. Can't wait!

Blogger Tracy G. said...

Your post today really made me think today. I am constantly questioning what my purpose or calling is. I feel like I try to do too much and end up not doing anything really well instead of focusing on one gift and running with it. I would love to win 3 copies of your book, I know just the friends I would study with!

Blogger Angie said...

your post today and devotion brought tears to my eyes this morning. I had prayed somewhat desperately that God would show me His truth clearly this morning before work. I have been praying to find my purpose and just talked this past weekend with my husband about how I always feel like I am letting people down. My life feels blurred and jumbled between circumstances and calling... I don't have a clear sence of purpose and feel even less fulfilled in pleasing people and getting through the days. Your message is timely. I look forward to God's work on my heart as I soak in the message He has given you.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

As soon as I read my devotional this morning and then read what your book was about it spoke to my heart. that is what i desire and long for is to be confident and secure in me and who I am so that I can be all that He created me to be. I am excited to read this and share with otheres.
Laura Fisher

Anonymous Bonni said...

I struggle with this, after being molested as a small child, almost kidnapped at 11, and date raped at 16, I didn't want to get to know the real me, I felt the real me made those things happen, so I became who I thought would avoid all the hurt. Now, I look back and realize that that decision to be somebody that nobody would hurt only hurt me as an adult. That was Satan's lie that I believed. I have been trying to figure out who I am and at 41 I still have no clue.

Blogger Tracy G. said...

Also linking to you FB site for another chance to win!!!

Blogger jleja said...

Thank you Renee. I'm a military spouse and mom with 2 young children. I find myself getting "lost" on a daily basis anymore. I have noticed that not only does it hurt me, but my marriage and parenting as well. I've been struggling for balance through prayer and reflection. It helps, but I still wonder who I am sometimes. I've been blessed with multiple talents that I LOVE, but there is never time to work and develop them all.

I know I have other friends who feel the same way.

Blessings,
Jennifer

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've had to answer questions about dreams before and I never knew what to say either. How do you have a grown up dream? After my divorce 3 years ago I realized I didn't know who I was? I'd always been something else to somebody else. I have been working on discovering my identity as a person and more importantly as a woman of God. His are the only expectations that I need to live up to. He loves me and created me to be the way I am. - Laura

Anonymous Anonymous said...

It has been touching to see you and the other commentors laying bare this struggle. It sometimes feels like everyone else has it together but me, everyone else knows what they want except me. I've done the comparing thing for so long. I've recently quit a job that provided for me an identity or a feeling of importance. I am searching for what God wants for me. I want more than anything to be able to know but I do get impatient and struggle with going back to what is comfortable.
Thank you for this devotion. Psalm 139 has been a recurring theme this week for me. Blessings! Julie

Anonymous Becky said...

Wow- your truth-filled words really cut straight to my heart and has set my mind turning this morning. Time to explore these thoughts with my Heavenly Father!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Renee, Thank you for this devotion. I have struggled it seems all my life with finding my dream and comparing myself. I would love to win this book in hopes that I can move on and quit struggling. Thanks and God bless. Tammy

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just shook my head when I saw this today. God never fails to send something entirely relevant to my life or the life of someone I am walking beside just when I/we need it most. The video particularly resonated with a particular need right now. So many people are stuck in the person they've made themselves be and not the one they were created to be. Thanks for being God's messenger today.
Debbie

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Renee,
This was exactly what I needed to hear (and read) today. My sisters and a group of women at church have just finished a Sunday school class and we're looking for another topic to study together. I think your book would be a perfect option to consider.

~ Mary M.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am going to post this on FB. Tammy

Anonymous SherrySmith30 said...

Your devotion and blog today touched my heart. I am constantly comparing myself to other women. I work in an environment that is filled with women so I am always comparing myself with how I am doing with how they are doing. I am comparing myself with how other women look. In all measures I come up short, in my eyes. How blessed you are to be challeneged in your 30s with the question that started you on your search for God's desire for your life. I am 57 and will start today. God bless you.

Blogger proverb31wife said...

Thank you for the encouragement to seek who God desires us to be. I'm looking forward to knowing what God wants me to be when I grow up.

Blogger Curves said...

This was a great devotional and a hard one to read, because as I read it, I knew that it was going to require some work on my part. And I'm too "busy" right now to focus on myself. Looking forward to your book;)

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I shared a link on Facebook encouraging my friends to check out your new book! I hope it gets them excited about the possibility of studying this topic together.

~ Mary M.

Anonymous Melanie said...

I've tried to answer the who am I question several times. I have never really come up with an answer. I liked the comment you made about asking God what His dreams are for me. I've never done that.

Anonymous Tricia said...

Thank you for this post. I identify with much that you wrote and would love to win your book in the hopes of taking 1 step closer toward being all that God fashioned me to be.

Blogger cbferg said...

I, too, find that I don't have an answer to the questions. God made me a "helper," and I enjoy helping others, but I don't know how to relax and enjoy time just being Barb. Can't wait to read the book!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Renee, I am going to post this link on Facebook (already sent a comment).
Debbie

Blogger Lynn said...

I read your devotion today "Becoming the Real Me", and really feel that I am in the right place where God wants me. I teach a therapeutic yoga to breast cancer survivors. My heart is full of joy when working with these women. If you just allow God to lead and take control, the path will be an incrediable journey of joy and fruition!

Anonymous Linda said...

I saw your note in an email newsletter I received. I recently divorced after a bad 32 yr marriage where my whole focus was on HIM (while his was on HIM too, and other women), I used to say laughingly, my name is Coach XXX's wife. For so long I did not feel I HAD a name. I lost the real me. I did for him so much, and worked too so hard to make everything "okay" for our family I completely lost who "I" am. Your words sounded so much like me. My sister just said "that's you!" ha! So true (sadly). It's like you know me. Would LOVE to figure out how to find out who I am again. Lost that by the time I was 20 and am now 52. May God Bless you and all the women who are looking for "who they are" in their lives. I do hope your ministry will help YOUNGER women figure this out and not wait until they are in their 50's or disabled like me. But it's never too late to find out who I am and I know there can still be a "purpose" God has for my life. There's always time, even if it's only one day and I can help or save one person. God Bless. Linda

Renee,

Great video! After praying for you during the writing process I can't wait to read A Confident Heart. Just yesterday I was comparing myself to someone else thinking "I wish I could be a mom like that." I love knowing that God has a special plan for me but I do struggle with self doubt. I will also be linking this post on my facebook.

Have a blessed day,
Mary

Anonymous patty said...

Wow! You really spoke to my heart today! This is exactly my struggle-figuring out who I am, and I am 47 years old! I guess its about time. I can't wait to read this book.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Awesome!! I can totally relate to this and am excited to read your book. Thank you! :)
Caty

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow! This devotion had to God inspired specifically for me! I am so thankful for the gift placed inside of you. He spoke through you this morning in His perfect timing.

I am only 27 & I just had to have a total hysterectomy, while in Nursing school, trying to be a Godly mother to my 3 young beautiful children, also at the beginning of a painful divorce. A divorce from a man who cheated & emotionally abused me the entire duration of the 5 year marriage. So I have been lately asking God was this his plan for me. I just feel so lost, & asking "NOW WHAT"....

Quoting Jeremiah 29:11 while waiting....

Victoria L. Patrick

Anonymous Anonymous said...

This devotion described me exactly. It has encouraged me to start seeking God's will for me.

denise@lci-lineberger.com

Blogger rachel said...

Brought up in a different culture, so education, career were important, so never got to find put my gifting, talents, have been asking God to show them, so that I can get into the destiny and purpose he has planned for me - Jerem, 29:11 has been God's reminder to me nearly every week in various ways

Blogger apple blossom said...

confidence is a big thing many women lack. They always are comparing themselves to this person or that. Very important message thanks

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Blogger Jeannie said...

I too don't like the question because at 52, I still don't know. I have read a few books on the sunject but haven't come to a solid conclusion. I just do what's on my plate each day, occasionally doing something I enjoy.Have a blessed day!

Blogger Lynn said...

I just read the devotion for today,"Becoming the Real Me" I feel I am doing exactly what God has in his plans for me. I am reaching out to breast cancer survivors, by teaching the a healing/therapeutic yoga. My heart sings with joy when working with these women. When you allow God control, he will guide you in the direction of fruition and joy!

Blogger Bridget said...

Thank you for your post today! As you said in your devotion that at 32 years old you had no idea what you hopes and dreams were I couldn't help but see myself. I too struggle so much with "doing" to please others and wind up burned out, only to realize later that no one had the expectations on me to "do" all these things, but rather I placed the expectations on myself. Sometimes I do feel lost, wanting to do God's will but not necessarily knowing what that means for me right now or in the future.

Blogger 1btrfli said...

Thank you for today's devotion. It could definitely been me you were writing about! I am almost 70 yrs young and have NEVER had real dreams of what I want to do with my life! I've been searching for the last few years for something meaningful, have a couple of ideas, but didn't have the want to to go ahead. Thanks for the encouragement and with God's help, that dream will become His desire for my life!

Blogger Stella said...

Wow! That hit me like a ton of bricks.. I do know Some of Gods plan for me but I have pushed it aside thinking I don't have the confidence or time. To think I am taking myself out of the will of God!.. wow! Thank you for sharing! Stella

Anonymous Shelly said...

Thanks for sharing this today. For me it's easy to forget who I am as I take care of two babies and a husband.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can see myself in alot of what you spoke about. I am definitely getting the book, and will share it with my daughters! I still don't know what I want to be "when I grow up!

Dana

Blogger Tracey said...

Wow, I'm not sure why but you're introduction alone made me cry. This is an area that I struggle with very deeply. I think it starts when I was twelve and my dad tried to kill himself. I always wondered why he didn't want to live for me if not for anything else. This affects a lot of my relationships I have today where I push people away in fear of getting hurt when it's my own insecurity that is doing it. It really creates a vicious cycle for me where both people involved are just frustrated.
I will be sharing this link on my facebook page because we can all use some confidence. Thank you Renee!

Blogger MOM2 said...

I know who i watn to be, but have nto really prayed to God to become who he wants me to be. this spoke to me, I need to quit making my own path and listen for his guidance to walk his. Thank you.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Comparing ourselves with one another is one of our biggest temptations as women to see how we measure up.

Erin Wyrick

Blogger MOM2 said...

sharedon facebook. Thank you.

Blogger Bobbey said...

Wow! I sure needed your P31 devotion today. I've been struggling with doubting myself and worth for 42 years. Thank you for breathing God's truth into my morning today!

Blogger Becca said...

Confidence is a tricky topic. So many women need to hear what God thinks of them in order to give them confidence!

Blogger TrooperChick64 said...

Wow! Your blog hit me right at home. I am feeling everything you described... I can't wait to read your book! I wish I didn't have to wait until August...

Blogger Karl said...

Glad to know I am not the only shell walking around this earth.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amazing how these wonderful messages from Proverbs 31 always seem be just the thing I needed for the day. I had just been praying last night that God would show me who it is I am supposed to be because I am so lost to who I really am. Thank you for writing just what needed to hear today.
~Katie

Blogger Hope said...

I am so encouraged by your post! Thank you! Just last night (as I was pondering what the Lord is asking of me during the season of my life) I ended up just in this same place. I struggle so much with my identity and the ability to not only rest in but celebrate the woman God made me to be. I so desire this confidence and now I am really looking forward to reading your book!

Blogger jennifer said...

I am in tears over this topic right now. I feel like I have failed my daughter who is so rebellious right now and I feel like if I was a better mom she would not be this way. I don't know why God gave me all of this to deal with and I spend all of my time taking care of others and not myself. I have no personal friends or real hobbies - all of my time is taken up with housework and my kids. Yet, I still struggle knowing God made me for more. I have abilities and I am a smart person. I know there is more - He created all of us to work for His kingdom and to bring glory to His name. I needed this devotional this morning - I am so thankful someone understands these feelings. Renee you are such an encouragement because sometimes I feel so alone in this. You remind me God is there.

Anonymous Corrie L. said...

I do not so much compare myself to others, but I am a people pleaser. I to, at the age of 34, often wonder what I will do "when I grow up". I know what I should do and what would be best financially for my family, but is it my true calling. I hope this book will help me in recognizing my true potential and what I need/should be doing with my life. Thanks, Renee!

Blogger Buffi said...

Wow...I read your blog this morning...and your devotion on Proverbs 31. I have been wrestling with this very thing for a few years. I'm turning 40 in a few short months...and when I ask myself your question at the beginning of the blog..."If finances were unlimited and failure was unlikely, what would be your dream?"

Its sad for me to say...but I STILL DON'T KNOW this answer. I SO want to be all God wants me to be...but somewhere in the middle of life and trying to "find myself" I have truly lost myself.

I LOVE my life...and my family...but there is this nagging feeling that I'm missing something...that there is more. And I just don't know what that is. SIGH....I look forward to reading your book. It seems like something that would really speak to my heart. Thanks for sharing!
Blessings,
Buffi

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your words truly speak to my heart. I have struggled with feelings of inferiority for most of my life, comparing myself to the "image" projected by others. I now see the same pattern beginning in my daughters. I want them to accept themselves for who God created them to be, and find their purpose in life at an early age. Even at 39, I'm not sure that I know my purpose. I can't wait to read your book. I think God has led me to your blog today, and by faith I hope to discover who He has created me to be!
Lori H.

Anonymous Jess M from Tx said...

As moms and wives, I think we are in that constant battle of how to use our gifts we may have used pre-family as professionals and now as full time moms. Thank you for the thoughts today on using our gifts

Blogger Hope said...

Just shared your post on Facebook! And included this quote which really touched my heart this morning: God gives all of us unique personalities, abilities, passions and experiences because we each play a leading role in the story He’s writing with our lives. Amen!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank You So Much for this Devotion and for the upcoming book. I can't wait to read it. I was just thinking this morning of how I didn't know where I fit in and what I should be doing when I was having my quiet time with God.Then I read your devotional and it was like God was speaking straight to my heart. I have Never figured out what it is God wanted me to do and have Always felt like a useless person.I know of several other women who could use this as well and will be recommending your book to them. PLEASE keep up the Great work you & Proverbs 31 Ministries are doing. What a Blessing y'all are.
Anita Wittkopp

Anonymous Christina B said...

This is exactly what I needed to read this morning along with your devo at Proverbs 31. I have been struggling with these very thoughts lately and feeling like I am the only one, because everyone else hides their emotion and I wear mine on my sleeves. I don't know who I am aside from a mom of three and each day is such a battle of my mind that i feel so all alone.

Anonymous Dawn said...

wow...you are preachin' to the choir! I sooo relate to this topic, it is scary - and clearly there are many others as well. God is clearly leading me in this direction and I think it's about time I started walking down this path of discovery & healing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

Anonymous Hannah Smith said...

Wow Renee! Thanks so much do sharing hat I know is a God thing. I I've been WAY behind in my proceed 31 daily d's, but for some reason woke up early this morning and opened this one and read it. I am a college student searching for the major God intends for me to have,and have realized that all the majors j have tossed around have been to appease ither people. Such a slippery slope to slide down! This devo has found me in a silent house saying Lord use this insecure 19 year old to further your kingdom and to bring not myself, but you glory. Thanks so much! Can't wait to post on my facebook wall for other college questioners(:

Anonymous Emily said...

Even at 44, I often wonder about God's purpose for me. I love the Lord and want to live for Him, but I am so often beaten down by self-doubt. I can't wait to read your book!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks,
I needed that this morning. I think this book was written for me.
Thanks,
Kristy F.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was just asking God about this very subject this morning. God is so good! He had this P31 devotional waiting for me...and apparently so many others. So thankful and so excited about your book!
Tanya

Anonymous Sharon E said...

What a blessing and encouragement to fill fear filled thinking with faith filled thinking and Trust in God. Breaking the chain in my upbringing and some of those around me.

Blogger Kathy said...

Thank you for your post and sharing God's word. I struggle with this every day...I really needed this today. Thank you!

Anonymous Sherri said...

As I sat down to do my own personal devotions this morning the first thing I said was Lord I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with my life. Please help me figure this out. Then later in the day I read your devotional. I had tears in my eyes as I identified with everything you shared. Here I am 47 years old and I don't know who I am or what God's purpose is for me. Yes, I know I am to continue being a good mom and wife, but I feel there is something more and I'm missing the boat. Thank you for the recommending readings and for sharing. It helps to know I'm not alone.

Blogger KHartsook said...

Your post hit me right over the head. I am at a loss after parting ways with the family business after 15 years! Plus - it wasn't a good split... I am LOVING being a Mom & volunterring, but feel God's calling for so much more...if I could just figure it out! I would LOVE to have the book, plus looking for a new Bible study for women's group.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hadn't thought of Ps 139:13 in the context of my dreams and being all I am. Thanks. Marcy Ganow

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow! This is so me. I have been struggling for the past few months with total self doubt and the comparison game. I have been praying for God to show me the way! Reading your post was a great way to start my day!
I can't wait for your book!


Amy E.

Anonymous Rachael said...

I wish I had known you were going to be writing about ms today.

I'm 34, never had a real job, and my husband has just left me and our 2-year-old for another woman.

If I don't find out God's purpose for me now, I never will.

I just don't know how. I never have. I've done what I'm "supposed" to, but I don't know what's next.

Maybe your book can help.

Blogger Melanie Harvey said...

Thank you for this post today; I am struggling with direction as my life circumstances have dramatically changed. I was just praying this morning for something to read that would help with my confidence of God's faithfulness--and this was my first email Prov 31 devotional. I think the answer was clear, so thank you.

Anonymous ap said...

i dont know if ill win but i know this is for me. I constantly compare myself to others because i dont like who i am. Someone in my world was close to me was abusive and acted in a really evil way. and i thought if this person is so bad, i cannot possibly be any good. I wanted to be someone else, someone better. I know this goes aganist God, but I was desparately searching for the good when around me was all bad, abuse, domestic violence, anger racial hatred. It took a toll on my self esteem, thus i sought after ppl who did not value me, and what i had. What i had was a fad like being married to someone who looks a certain way may be popular. So guys would alway choose someone else, because those ppl 'were' in style' and i figured okay well what i got must not be very good since they leave to find somebody better. I valued ppl more than myself, because evrywhere i looked ppl told me what i had was bad or not good because of racism. How can this be when GOd said everything was GOOD. Even those ppl who you dont like. So self acceptance has been a real struggle for me, b/c those who were supposed to represent good in my growing up didn't so i thought that meant i wasnt either. I hope to come to accept how i've been created even if it isnt popular, or special or what is in popular demand. someone wants what i got even if its just God. I want to love who I am all of it and get over my hang-ups so i can do 'whatever it is i'm supposed to be doing.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you, Renee. I needed to hear this. I am a people pleaser and I always seem to morph into whatever it is others need me to be. I sometimes lose myself. I really do want to be the woman God created ME to be. I'm looking forward to reading your book!

Kristie M.

Blogger rbw said...

I came to your site by the P31 devotions I receive each morning. This really hit home with me. I have continually felt embarrased and ashamed that at the age of 36 I still don't know who I am or what I truly want to do. I'm stuck in a profession that I'm not at all happy with but I have no idea of what I would rather do with my life. I look forward to reading your book and pray the Lord will enlighten me as to his plan.

Blogger Elesha said...

Thank you for this! I've been thinking a lot about "what I want to be when I grown up" lately. At 37, I thought I would know but I don't. After reading Proverbs 31 Ministries today, I realized that it's not what I want but what God wants me to be. This really spoke to my heart!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

You spoke to my heart today...I can't wait to read your new book. I am 50 years old and have been asking myself those questions alot lately. I find myself excited about what God has in store for me. Thank you for putting into words what I've been feeling and pointing me in the right direction. - Pam

Blogger Melissa said...

so thought provoking....I never really stopped to examine my dreams or purpose. Thanks for sparking this thought...

Blogger Annette said...

Wow!! You want to talk about hitting the nail on the head! I find myself constantly trying to be who other's want me to me and ignoring the inner voice that says I'm my own person. In fact, I don't even know who my own person is. I look forward to using your suggestions and listening to God instead of others to find me. Thank you so much. Can't wait for your book to come out.

Blogger safe said...

Still at age 53 I ask myself what do I want to be when I grow up. By the end of this year 3 of my 4 children will be married, it has been a great road. I homeschooled them all through high school graduation. Three have graduated college, 1 has his masters degree. More importantly they have a relationship with Christ! I could not be more proud and thankful for these wonderful people (my Children) and all that they have given to me. Now comes another time of my life. What DOES God want me to do? What does GOD want me to do? What does God want ME to do?

Blogger ann64 said...

Reading your devotion today really hit home with me. I am 47 years old and have never had a dream of my own. I have always been there to do for everyone else and make sure everyone else is happy and they have what they need. I will start praying to day that God will show me what His dreams are for me. I thought I was the only one who felt this way! Thank you for sharing this with me.

Blogger AmandaLee said...

I like this devotion today, it really makes you stop and think if you are doing God's will and what you as person desire in your heart. After all he gives you those desires!

Anonymous Debbie said...

Thank you for your article. I do want to find out who God made me to be and I definitely need to take time to think about the dreams God has for me also.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

This sounds like exactly what I need to hear! For too long, I have been hiding in my busyness of raising 4 children and doing all the things I thought I was supposed to be doing (i.e. homeschooling, being a "good" mom, etc.) but I am pretty miserable (trying to be who I think others want me to be or trying to please others more than God) and I don't really know who I am or what my God-given gifts are. I'd like to find out and enjoy the freedom of who God made me to be!

Anonymous Renea said...

I can totally identify with the feelings of fear and shame of not having an answer for those types of questions. Sometimes we get so caught up in life and with life that we forget that God created us "fearfully and wonderfully".

Anonymous DonnaW said...

I really related to your devotion today. I really have no idea who I am. Thank you for making me realize I need to find out.

Blogger Marcia said...

I am a very real person but over the years I have struggled with many problems. I have been meditating in the Lord for quite a few months now. I was save as a teenager with my twin sister and one of our friends at our lighted cross at night in the front of our church. The Lord told me to go there and pray and we 3 went. We prayed that GOD WOULD SAVE US AND HE DID IN A MIGHTY WAY. I STRAYED FROM THAT MANY TIMES SINCE THEN BUT THE Lord is my Rock now. I feel a calling to go into young menastry and woman prisions. I was abused badly before christmas 2010 by my husband. It was rape in the night and I don't recall any of it. I had to have a 3 hour surgery on my rt. Shoulder and bicept muscle and have been in thearpy every since. We seperated for a few months and I felt the Lord telling me our marriage was not over. Yet with his screaming at me over the phone, many times, I knew I couldn't handle it anymore. He came over one night and as humble as I could be I told him that I had nothing in me annymore.I had no clue what the Lord was about to do. He fell to his knees after a very prideful minute or more and cried like a baby. He was praying and crying to God. I was just ready for him to get over it at the time. He then went to the floor in a fetal position and continued. He ask me to put my hand on him and pray. I thought to myself ," it couldn't hurt". I did just that and prayed also that God show me what to do. I heard the Lord say Lgive him another chance and it felt as if my heart was filled with a gallon of warm water and my Love for hik returned. We had revival at our church during that time and it has turned our life around 180 o. We. Both feel a calling to move to the Mountians 5 hrs. Away but don't even have the funds topay our phone and lights that r due in just a couple of days. I want to finally do what God has plans for me in my life and it is now up to Him. For I am following his wishes and desires in my life. I would love a copy of your book for I feel it qill help me in my ministry. God bless you all.

Blogger Michelle said...

Thank you for your encouragement in this matter. I have often found myself not knowing what I was "meant" to do. I continually pray for God to make me the woman He created me to be. Today, however, I stopped and thought about what I love. You have inspired me to do just that. Thank you again. God Bless!

Blogger Mrs.H said...

As I read through this devotion it rang so true to me. I spend a lot of time being what others need me to be and changing my hats to fit that need. It was a wake up call to not just continue in the craziness of life but to reevaluate and make sure my focus is falling in step with my heavenly father. Much needed devotion, thank you.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kathy

Blogger chris said...

God has been working with me on this very topic over the past week. This devotional is confirmation for me that I am on the right track! I have just finished 20 years in the military, and I am wondering who/what am I supposed be now? I have been what everyone else has wanted or needed me to be and now I have no idea of who I really am. God is opening doors and leading me through some fantastic teaching this past week! I will definately read this book!
thank you!
Chris

Blogger Annette said...

Wow! I read today's devotion and then followed your blog. Talk about stepping on toes. I needed that though. I am 37 and find myself wondering who i really am. I, too, always seem to do as other's want me to do and be. I look forward to trying your suggestions and actually listening for God's answer of who he wants me to be. Thank you so much. Can't wait to read your book.

Blogger Cynthia said...

This is so me! are you a fly on my heart wall, Renee? Thanks for the encouragement and the reminder of who I truly am! Cynthia

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would love your book!
Sarah

Anonymous Anonymous said...

This devotional spoke to me as a woman trying to help her husband find his dream. He loves God with all of his heart but has never found the freedom of satisfaction that you are following your dreams that God put in your heart. I am going to encourage him to continue searching and listen to God to find that dream.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I really needed to hear this today!I just had a conversation with my hubby last night about everything I am doing and nobody seems happy. That's the problem though right, I'm not supposed to be trying to make everyone happy am I. I'm 41 and have stayed at home with my children since birth. My oldest is graduating this year and trying to figure out what I'm supposed to be about is screaming at me.......Brenda

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I forgot to leave my name. I was "anonymous" at 8:50 AM.
Thanks, Becci

Anonymous shana said...

This was very good for me to read. I have been trying to be someone else my whole life and now i am 25 yrs. old.The hardest part is i compare myself with my best friend all the time. I am going to being praying for what Gods dreams and goals are for me becuase right now i am in a place where I am stuck in life and not moving foward

Blogger Amy said...

It was a relief to know that I am not the only thirty-something woman who has no idea what she's good at or what she's passionate about. I never thought of asking God what His dreams are for me; I didn't even know that He had dreams. It's so uplifting to know that it's never too late to figure out who I am.

Anonymous Lisa said...

Simply amazing how connected we all are. Can't wait to read your book!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

A much needed devotional for me today as I am struggling with several issues going on in my life. I am 51 and have struggled with worry and doubt for most of my life.

When you are in the storms of life, you really doubt your self worth and why God has you where you are.

A wonderful devotion and prayer as I never thought of asking God to reveal my dream HE has for me. Thank for you all your encouragement and sharing what God has done and is doing through you.

Dierdre

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would love to read your new book. I think all women struggle with this issue.

Thanks,
K

Blogger Joyfully Melinda said...

I am in a place in my life where I desire a higher, inner righteousness not based on outward experience. I want to follow hard after the Lord. I have not always been grateful over the person God made me but I am learning to be confident in who He made me and who He made me for, Himself.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow, your P31 devo today is right in line with what I've beeen thinking and praying lately! I have some dreams and ideas, but I have fear and lack confidence too. What I've been praying about though, is that God would lead and direct and show me the plans He has for me; where is it He wants me and what is it He wants me doing with the gifts He's given me and the unique way He's made me.
Thanks for the affirmation!

Blogger Joyfully Melinda said...

I am learning to be grateful and confident in who God has made me. I am dealing with anger against others and self for changing myself to please others or fit in. I somehow forgot who God told me I was and who I was made for, Himself but I am asking God to give me ears to hear again.

Anonymous Heather said...

Please enter me in the drawing Renee. I feel like God is speaking to me through your devotion today and want to hear more!

God bless you!
Heather

Anonymous Natasha said...

I can't wait to read both of your books. I struggle with who I am and should be in Gods eyes.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your message spoke to the deepest places in my spirit. I have spent my entire life trying to be who everyone else needed me to be and have only just realized that I have not honored God's plan for my life. It is with a renewed sense of excitement in His word that I am embarking on a journey to know myself and to believe that I am not being selfish by doing so. Seeking His plan for me is indeed a form of worship and praise. Please pray for my journey. He made me and I am indeed wonderful! Halleluiah!!! Paige

Anonymous Anonymous said...

You give me a lot to think about. I think I have been one of those that tries to be what everyone else wants me to be. If only I had the resources to do what I would like. I allow the busyness of every day rob me of what I wnat to do but I have to support my family. time to read your book and do some real soul searching.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about finding the
"Real You". You blessed me!
From Susan

Blogger Mariel said...

what an incredible and much needed topic in th elives of every woman! I would love to read this book, renee and share it with other woman who struggle to know the love God has for them and how powerfully He can use them!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

My daughter and I have fought alot lately. I told her this morning that today I would try to understand her more and that she do the same with me. Our problem - my expectations. I wanted all As in school and even though she is a JR in high school I still email all teachers and make frequent appearances at school.

I need to LET GO & LET GOD help her decide what her purpose is....not mine.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Reading your devotional really hit home! I do think it is a struggle to do what you (think) you need to do and be for others, while at the same time recognizing our own true self and needs.
Anna

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes I am definitely sharing your devotion on Facebook!

God bless,
Heather

Blogger Jacqueline said...

Thank you for your devotion today, you have been hitting the nail on the head for me lately! I've really been bothered by how I compare myself to co-workers and friends. I have begun to see the damage it is doing to me and some relationships. The prayer at the end of your devotion is great and helpful for me to begin praying specifically about this issue. And, I always love reading Ps 139:13, it puts this kind of thing into perspective for me. Thx, Jacquie (jlafay10@gmail.com)

Blogger Mariel said...

I am sharing this on my FB page for others to be blessed :)

Blogger gail said...

When i get lost in caretaking, i live life just doing the next thing. I again realized that "without vision the people perish". i have never dreamed of what could be...."with God all things are possible". Thanks for a new courage to ask...

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hallelujah, Renee, looks like you have hit a quick in all of us that is important to God! I am recently divorced from my 40 year old marriage and at 62 am seeking how God will complete His years in me. Having lived in Him and Him in me since I was 27 years old, He has grown me up through many hardships and happy-ships, so I know He has something special for the rest of my life. Thank you for pointing us...Onward Christian Sisters!

Blogger gail said...

When i get lost in caretaking, i live life just doing the next thing. I again realized that "without vision the people perish". i have never dreamed of what could be...."with God all things are possible". Thanks for a new courage to ask...

Anonymous Anonymous said...

What u said hit home. I too have found that I am so busy that I miss the fact that we are all different and created that way for a reason. When living with a family of seven that is a good thing to remember. Thanks-Olivia

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Renee, The devotional on the Proverbs 31 email that was taken from your book could have been written by me. In fact, I am starting today to ask God what His dreams are for my life. This may seem strange to some as I am almost 63 years old, but I know that it is never too late with God. Thank you for sharing. Susan

Blogger Klarissa said...

I love it when I read a devotion so close to my life. I am at a point in my life where learning who I am is the forefront of my daily life. My husband of almost 20 years died two years ago, I was 18 when we meet, and our daughter has recently turned 18 and is in some ways anxious to leave the nest. I now have the time to sit back and take a true look at who I am and how I can use that to make a differnce.

Blogger Donna said...

Here I am...Doubting Donna...and I will be 60 yrs old this year and I am still lack confidence and struggle daily on who I am and where & what & how God wants me. After reading your post at my daily devo on Proverbs 31, I followed on to your link as you hit the nail on the head and described me and my emotions. I do so much want to seek the woman God wants me to be!

Blogger Janny said...

Thank-you. The question you shared about what would you do if finances & failure were not a problem, really turned a light on for me. I too have no answer. I have neglected myself to meet the needs of others- thinking that was the godly thing to do. Thank-you for opening my eyes to the fact that I need to be who God created and wants me to be, and I'm doing a disservice to mysel and others by ignoring that.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Today's devotion truly spoke to my heart. The more I read, the more emotional I became. I am clueless in regards to the "real me." I have always, always been a people pleaser. What saddens my heart the most is my daughter is following in my footsteps. It's time for me to discover my identity in Christ and who He created me to be. Thank you for sharing a piece of your story. I look forward to reading the book.
Sincerely,
Shannon

Anonymous Anonymous said...

This book sounds like something I need to read!
Kelly

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been praying for this information.

Blogger Courtney said...

Your devotion really struck home with me...especially as I had just gotten off the scale and was a bit frustrated!! I have this conversation with my husband frequently...what is the thing that God has gifted me with...and how do I figure that out! As a 32 year old stay at home/homeschooling mommy of 2 children, it is so hard to stop in the midst of all that and figure out what I am really gifted in. I get caught up in the game of comparison with other women who I feel are smarter, prettier, more talented, and just end up feeling like I am not good at anything. Thank you for reminding me that God made me in HIS image and made me unique...exactly the way He wanted. Looking forward to reading your book!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for your entry in Proverbs 31 - was meant to read it today as I haven't thought about what God's plans for me are besides being a wife and mother and other relationships.
Christin

Anonymous Melanie Mckinley said...

Ever feel as if you are in a desert? Bland, blah, nothingness? thats where I am. I am 44 and feel as if I have wasted my life away taking care of other people, pleasing, doing the "right" thing, keeping the peace. I keep thinking there is more....something just for me. Most of the time I feel as if I don't fit anywhere. I've had this longing...restlessness in my heart for some time now for something different. Thank you for the devotion. I look forward to reading the book. Melanie McKinley mamckinley3@yahoo.com

Blogger Davene said...

It is so sad that we are raised in the world to believe we all need to fit a perfect mold, ie Barbie, and when we do not fit that mold we are crushed and we shove away who we are and what we desire to become for that Barbie desire. I do not know why the world has created this strong desire for commoness and putting down uniqueness, but as women we need to embrace that uniqueness and run with the dream that God put in our heart as you said. That is so encouraging to know that there is a very special dream inside of me that God put there and desires that I live out. That means I am special and so is everyone else in their own way. I pray that we change the worldly view around us and show other women that each are made perfectly unique by GOD and to embrace that.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Renee I am so excited about your new book! I just happened to click on this e-mail this morning and it was just what I needed to hear. There are days when I think I know who I am and where I am headed but then many days I think, "am I really who I am supposed to be? Am I doing what God wants me to do?" I think this book will really help me have more confidence about this issue. I would love to share it with the ladies at my church. Thanks for your encouraging words this morning!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Every devotion I read from you speaks directly to my heart, but this one was like an arrow to my soul! I find myself saying "get up, shake yourself off, and start again!", words that I have never embraced because of paralyzing fear of the unknown, and fear of failure. Thanks for the encouragement to seek God's will, and for the "push" I need to get going! I can't wait to read your book! - Melinda

Blogger Faith said...

I seem to endlessly search for who I am. Sometimes I sense the answer; often times not. I would love to read your book. Thank you for today's post. It really spoke to me.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Todays devotional bought tears to my eyes as I prayed the prayer. I am 54 years old and have been seeking God about His purpose for my life. I am nearing retirement completing 37 years of work and I still don't know what my passion is. I have spent my life taking care of children and grandchildren and never discovered who I am or what I enjoy in life. Idella

Thanks so much for this post, Renee. I've felt from a young age that God has called me to be a performer. It took me many, many years to have the confidence to follow that dream but I finally am. I believe I'm not just called to be an actress but to be a light in a very dark industry. It's very challenging at times. Thanks for this reminder that what I'm called to do isn't just some selfish pursuit but a desire that God placed in me from the time he knit me.

Blogger Donna said...

Here I am...Doubting Donna....I will be 60 yrs old this year and still lack confidence and struggle with who I am..I so much want to be the woman God wants me to be. After reading your post on my daily P31 devo, I followed your link as you hit the nail on the head and described me and my emotions exactly. I truly am seeking God's way in me:)

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I thought I was the only 47 year old who did not know what she wanted to be when she grew up.

Angie

Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow! i used to have confidence in what i was to be doing for God; something got lost along the way! thank you for this post and p31's message. i may be able to put my finger on why i've felt so "undecided" about things for so long! praise God :) i would love to have your book and pass along a couple to friends i believe are struggling along with me! thank you! Angela B.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing today. As a wife and mother, I am often left with the feeling of "is this all". I love my husband and children but I feel I have so much more to offer others also. Fear often stands in the way. I pray that God will reveal to me "what else" he has called me to do and that He will give me the confidence to step out in faith to do it.

Anonymous Connie said...

Renee,

I am 49 and keep waiting for that time in my life when I'm comfortable with me. It's not happening. I think its because I don't know me. I, too, am a people pleaser who does what I'm expected to do. I find myself more worried, not less, about what other people think or say. I would love to read your book and maybe try to find myself.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm in my 40's and still don't know what I want to be or do with my life. I belong to Christ, but am lost to myself! Would love to read your book.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for your devotional today. For the past few weeks, it has hit me that I don't have a dream. I think for years, I have been afraid to dream, to want something, thinking it was wrong. Now, at 45, I am praying for God to show me his dream and plan for my life! I am trying to overcome my fear and doubt about myself and know that God is in control! I am looking forward to your book. Thanks again, Amy

Anonymous Anonymous said...

What do others want/expect of me - is a question that follows me. I continue to struggle with "what's God's desire/dream/purpose for me". What are my gifts and what do I really like/want to do. I feel like I just keep muddling through life.
Ann

Blogger LifeChanger10 said...

I am 29 years old. Single. Overweight and I feel invisible. I know God has a plan but I just cant see what it is. I've always had to be the strong one in my family and that has taken its toll to where if there isnt a crisis going on then I dont know what to do. I like my job but I dont love it and I really have no clue what I want with the rest of my life. But I do know this... I want to find out what my purpose is. Since your book doesnt come out in July and if you feel someone needs the copy more than I, can you suggest some other reading until then? Cause I feel like I need something now. Thanks, Melissa

I am the same way. I feel that I never really thought about what I want to do. My worldly desires I had before I came to the Lord have melted away and now I have no idea!!

Blogger "A God Moment" said...

I have always heard that God places you where you need to be when you need to be there. Your blog was on my email and ready for me to open just at the RIGHT time. I have been struggling for years with "who I am" and "where do I fit in as a Christian woman". I've had many, many ups and downs the past few years that I thought I had it all figured out and then..."boom"...it comes crashing down and I'm back where I started, asking God, "ok, where do we go from here?"
I am anxious and ready to read your book and finally realize that I am a Christian woman who lives for our loving God first and foremost and He will lead me to where I need to be if I just listen for His direction.
Thank you!

I will post this on my facebook page!!! Yay for sharing!!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Um missed my name for "belong to Christ, but am lost to myself"
~Shera VanGoor

Blogger Tonja said...

I was abused as a child then married an abuser. For a long time I thought I was useless,ugly and had no reason for living. Then in 2003 a samll voice came to me and said " I didn't pur u hear on earth to be treated like this". That is when I started reading who God says I am and since then believing who God says I am. I am now happly married with 3 beautiful children and with God first in my families life and us beleiveing. That we are His children.heir to His throne. We can be anything we want . We r his children and he only wants the best for his children.

Anonymous Karina said...

I would love to win a copy of your book! Been on this quest for purpose for as long as I can remember.

Anonymous Anonymous said...

As I read this devotional today, I felt like God was talking directly to me. For years I have struggled with who I am and what my passion in life is. I've been living my life trying to be what others want me to be. I can't wait for God to reveal His true plan for my life.
Kacy

Anonymous Karmen said...

I can so relate to your post today. I wonder if I'll ever be who I'm suppose to be. Right now I feel like I'm in the firey furnace and not sure how much more I can take. I know God is working on me I just wish he would hurry up.

Anonymous Cathy said...

Thank you for reminding me that I am special to the Lord. I have always had issues with who I am, and who people expect me to be.
I grew up as a PK and now I am a pastor's wife. I have put pressure on myself trying to live up to people's expectations. I try so hard not to let this change who I am and how I live my life. You have encouraged me to please God and fullfill His purpose in my life. Looking forward to reading the book!!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

After reading the P31 for the day, it made me think about what I would do to, its one of those loaded questions, but I know doing things you love will make you happy! Melissa

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